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.They are the result of processes, sequences of thought that you run inyour mind.Up until now, you may not have been aware of that you were doing this, andthe vital thing to realize is that you have complete control over these processes.You candecide which mental processes have use and which do not, and if they are useless, youcan stop, interrupt and banish them.Let s begin now to blow out those negative emotions.A great place to begin to interruptand banish those useless thought processes is to consider the language you use todescribe them.Let s say you ve feared public speaking.How do you describe this toyourself? If you say,  I have a fear of speaking in public, you are, in a sense, takingpossession of something that is just a mental process! What if you were to describe whatis really happening and say,  When I think about a certain context, I run a process in mymind which I have labeled as  fear. How much does that change things for you? Howmuch better do you feel, knowing that what you previously described as  a fear of publicspeaking is really just a process you ran in your mind?Begin now to notice how you have been describing your other negative emotions.Haveyou been saying things like,  I always get nervous when I talk to strangers ,  Talking tocustomers makes me anxious,  I just feel depressed, ? Instead of feeling,  I feel sad ,describe for yourself what is really going on:  I choose to think in a certain way thatresults in my feeling  sad when I encounter a certain set of circumstances. It may sounda bit hokey at first, but as you think about it, really think about the meaning of thatsentence, you will begin to gain a sense of how truly liberating this is.By changing your language you change your life.The language you use to describe what you are feeling impacts that feeling tremendously,and it is your knowledge, your awareness of these processes that gives you power overthem.Just like when somebody says,  I m depressed.What they ve done here is builtthat notion into their very being.Nobody can be depressed all the time.If they were,they wouldn t call it depression.It d just be their normal state of being.Instead, peoplewho consider themselves depressed should be saying,  I run a process through my mindthat causes me to experience certain pictures, sounds, and feelings inside that I havecollectively labeled as depression. The same goes for anxiety.Now, after taking control of these processes, put a good emotion in place of the negativeemotion. I have absolute confidence in public speaking. Try that out.The negativeprocesses do not serve you.If you catch yourself running one of these negativeprocesses, interrupt it! Inside your mind, go FFFFFFFFTTTT&.wait a minute&.STOP!Unstoppable Confidence.©2001 Kent Sayre.All Rights Reserved36/142Make the sound inside your mind& DING& stop the negative process.Start theresourceful process.As you go through your day, become aware of what you are seeing,hearing, and thinking inside yourself and realize that you have control.Change yourphysiology to have a confident state.Change your internal pictures, your internal voiceto suit you.Congratulate yourself when you stop the negative processes and praise yourself when youstart a confident process, because you get more of what you reinforce.Praising yourselfgives you incentive to run the resourceful process.Naturally, you ll then be more likelyto do it again in the future.After all, you should treat yourself well.Some people havenegative internal voices nagging at them all day.How awful would it be to live like that?Remember, the only person who you spend all your time with is yourself.You may aswell have great rapport with yourself.Compliment yourself.Praise Yourself.Just do it.When you do something well, congratulate yourself.Similarly, do that whenever youstep outside your comfort zone.Celebrate those successes and reward yourselfaccordingly!For example, consider the example of the rookie salesperson, Janet.Janet finds herselfsaying,  Talking to customers is scary.They frighten me and I feel the fear when I go toask them to purchase my product.I just don t know what to do.What is occurring here is that Janet has give up her personal power by using dis-empowering language.If we were to reword her language in such a way that wouldallow her to easily change her perception of the situation, the translation would be, According to me, right now, talking to customers causes me to experience a certainemotion that I describe as scary.I choose to allow them to frighten me and I dosomething inside my mind that collectively I label as fear which I then feel while I askthem to purchase my product [ Pobierz caÅ‚ość w formacie PDF ]